Sounds like a dream doesn't it?
Well to the majority of the population on Earth it is yet.
And they seem to not find any solution to get it, do they?
Well to be honest here it's really easy and can be achieved by ten simple principles. Which are as follows:
1. Stop putting your happiness in someone else's hands.
2. Stop expecting too much from anyone.
3. Learn to understand the difference between self-respect and ego.
4. Mind your own business
5. Be grateful about everything.
6. Stop comparing with others.
7. Don't ever go to sleep angry.
8. Everything happens for a good reason.
9. The golden rule in use.
10. It's all a matter of perceptions.
First and second points are way interrelated so I'll explain them together.
We humans always keep our happiness in everything except in our own hands, we either keep it any of the materialistic things or into the hands of any other human being. For example, We keep saying if I get an iPhone I'll be really happy or if that person gets into that college I'll be really happy.
See any problem here?
Yes it's our expectations is what hurts when they are not reached instead why don't we start saying I'll do my best or whatever is possible from my side and rather not worry about the outcomes and then there would be a 90% chance you'll not be sad even if you don't get that specific thing.
Ego, isn't it just a small three lettered word which shouldn't have much impact on our lives? But guess what it is completely opposite, that small three letter word has divided families and all the other close people far apart. And the reason being ego takes everything too much personally.
It's good to keep self respect and it is important but it's better to learn the difference between self respect and ego. That is what now a days games are all about, they care for winning because it satisfies their ego, it's not their win but rather the other person's loss that makes the person happy.
I mean why don't people understand that nobody in the world has ever shown himself how big he is by showing how small someone else is. Don't you agree?
And trust me when I say that saying sorry first doesn't bring you down and rather does the opposite and it also creates a kind of guilty feeling in the one who didn't say it first, but either ways the one who says it first wins.
Fourth point should had rather begun with,
"Everybody's business is nobody's business."
That is true whether it's actual business part we are talking about or about any specific situation related to human lives.
Trust me when I say that our lives would be way less stressful if we just kept apart from talking about other people's problems or their lives in whatever condition it might be. Every human already his own set of problems to deal and the why not use that time instead to sort out our own problems?
Seems a better alternative and with a way better result doesn't it?
Fifth point should had been the first point actually because in this case, if that is achieved fifty percent of your job is done.
Now people find a clause that I don't have that specific materialistic thing or that specific person in my life then how can I be grateful?
Well this might seem a coldblooded answer but it is true, you should be grateful that you wake up this morning and you are still breathing because many unfortunate people in the world didn't even have that privilege. That's just the beginning of the things you should be grateful for and if I start listing all the things, then it would take forever with whatever you are having right now, no matter how unfortunate or critical situation you are in. A best habit to instil in yourself is to write down three things every night about what you are grateful for, which I myself follow very strictly om a personal level. And it does create wonders in ways which you can't even think.
Comparing has become a part of human nature because it has been instilled into your upbringing since day one. But the problem is not comparing itself, it's what you make out of it that makes your situation worse, there's not a single person in world who can deny the fact that comparing with yourself will be a liability for you. The problem is we don't compare ourselves with our previous self and rather look out in the world and compete with the best or whatever is there front of us. You'd still get better if you compare to yourself and guess what's the best part about it ? You can't lose in that no matter what, because if you lose you are still winning and if you won you did obviously win, right?😁
How many of you have the problem of not getting asleep easily or not getting a peaceful sleep at night? Many do. And that's a fact and nobody can deny that. The problem which arises when you go to sleep angry due whatever might be the reason, first you already know, you'll not be able to all asleep easily and it affects only one person an that's you. Then the next problem is whenever you fall asleep angry is that you overburden your brain, which in turn leads to a awful morning and next you know is that it even gets worse by going to work angry, and because of all those small factors you'll affect your productivity and efficiency at work, which will frustrate you even more.
So a simple rule to follow which should also be instilled as a habit is that of not going to sleep angry no matter how angry you might be or whatever might be the scenario in your case and that'll really help.
Everything happens for a good reason, there are plenty of examples out there to prove this principle right but first let me clarify for what it stands for, because it has more of a negative acceptance than positive. First of all it's no where related to any person dying or any other such stuff and it should not be perceived in that sense, so just use some of your conscience and don't try and apply it in every single thing going around you. The best example which I can give right now to this is what happened with me while I was writing this blog, I actually finished writing this blog on Tuesday itself and was ready to post it today but what happened was that I accidentally deleted that whole content permanently and there wasn't even slight chance of recovering it back and what hurt me the most was that I has spent a whole of two hours writing it and now I had nothing. Absolutely nothing except the title still standing. However after a few minutes I recovered and consolidated myself with the same principle I state in front of you and guess what was that good reason as to why it happened because I wrote even a better one the very next day with loads of more content and it just took me half an hour to do that. And I wrote this example so that you can relate to it very easily. Try and think of this kind of situation in every person's life, alive or dead it has its presence. And so just believe that, "Every adversity brings with itself and equivalent seed of advantage."
Which the golden rule which is in use and which no supreme court in the world can put a stop to?
It's the rule that states,
"We do to or for another
We do to or for ourselves."
It can somewhat be perceived as for one to be successful others do not have to fail, or for an employer to win at business needs to win his employees first and the day he starts doing everything good for the employees the returns on this business would amplify and get better. Still just a small example which was quite infamous that is,
Mr. Ford the founder of motor company ford had been widely criticised for introducing a minimum wage of five dollars in his time which gave him everything he wanted and instead of what the competitors thought that it would put the company on the verge of bankruptcy, the results were exactly the opposite, the business bloomed even more and that wasn't just it, it gave the employer to choose his employees because every one wanted to work there.
And so we can also say that this rule merely translates to start giving before receiving which is how it is mentioned in many books by Napoleon Hill and Robert Kiyosaki. And there's a saying,
" You need not fear of competition from the person who says, I am not paid for that and I'll not do it. He will never be a dangerous competitor for your job but watch out for the who remains at his job till the work is finished and does give a little extra than he is paid for or is expected from him, for he may challenge you at the post and pass you at the grand-stand."
In the end coming to last but not the least but still one of the most important principle that is, It's always a matter of perspective. And I don't need to write much about this because it had been already mentioned in one of my previous blogs that, The garbage is present in the mind of perceiver because ragpickers perspective finds bread in that too.
There goes all the principles which if followed correctly would surely lead to happiness and prosperity and there's another saying which I would like to state,
"Until you have learned to be tolerant with those who do not always agree with you-until you have cultivated the habit of saying some kind word of those whom you do not admire-until you have formed the habit of looking for the good instead of bad there is in others, you will be neither successful nor happy."
And just for me to end this on a note I would use the word stated by Emerson,
"Every proverb, every book, every byword that belongs to thee for aid of comfort shall surely come home through open or winding passages. Every friend whom not thy fantastic will, but the great and tender soul in thee craveth, shall lock thee in his embrace."
Thank you all so much for reading this and for the wonderful reviews on all the previous blogs. Please guys do forgive me for my grammatical errors which might have occurred in any of my blogs but feel free to correct me in person or even in the comments because thats the way to improve and I promise I shall improve myself by every upcoming day and blog.